What is informing and driving your thoughts, words and behaviours?
What is informing your thoughts, words and behaviours?
Our personal core values are the things that are most important to us. Our values are our principles and standards of behaviour and the driving force behind our behaviours.
Are you clear on what yours are?
Could you list the top three if asked?
- They may have changed over time, they may evolve as your priorities in life change.
- They may have been influenced by your parents or role models in your younger years.
- They may be something you want more of, possibly less of.
- They are informed by our beliefs and our experiences.
There are no right or wrong values. There is not a values hierarchy, (although we will have our values in a hierarchy).
It is what is important to us. Our set of values is personal to us.
When we are clear on what our values are we can leave behind the thoughts and behaviours no longer of use to us, we can start to live a life with purpose with clear direction.
When we are not clear, this can have an impact on us mentally, physically and emotionally.
Values are our driving force behind our behaviours, so when we are asked to behave in a different way we get that feeling of being uncomfortable, often in our gut. It feels ‘off’ and out of sync with what we want to do.
When our values conflict with the values of the people we spend time with we can find ourselves questioning their actions, we may feel irritated by things they say, or do. It feels awkward because we like the person we cannot relate to where they are coming from.
When our personal values conflict with the values of the organisation we work for we can find it difficult to understand decisions that are made or priorities that are set. This can impact moral and often our performance.
Sometimes our personal values conflict with each other. We have a situation where we feel that we must choose between two things that are important to us. Or, we must find a way to meet both. This can be particularly challenging however it is not impossible and often one that often comes up in coaching sessions.
Having more than one thing important to you is completely normal it is what helps shape what we do, why, and how we do it.
Understanding what is important to us and why can help us choose what we do in the future and drive the principles and behaviours most important to us so that we can confidently live the life we choose.
Find people who share your values, and you’ll conquer the world together.
— John Ratzenberger .
***
If you would like to spend some time reflecting on your values and understanding how knowing them can help drive your behaviours so that you can confidently live the life you choose then why not join this months webinar.
Invest an hour with me and less than £15 and I will give you knowledge, tools and strategies you can start using straight away.
Find out a little more about group coaching in this short video.
Originally published at www.phoenixlifecoach.co.uk on January 26, 2019.
